Common Problems
It’s understandable to think that you’re alone with your problem, but it’s more than likely it’s something that many others are experiencing as well.
Whatever your age, gender or sexuality everyone feels pressure to please their sexual partner at one time or another. Like any aspect of our lives, a lot can depend on how we’re feeling, what’s happening in our life and our relationship with our partner.
Common Problems
It’s understandable to think that you’re alone with your problem, but it’s more than likely it’s something that many others are experiencing as well.
Whatever your age, gender or sexuality everyone feels pressure to please their sexual partner at one time or another. Like any aspect of our lives, a lot can depend on how we’re feeling, what’s happening in our life and our relationship with our partner.
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Painful Sex
Sex is a normal and healthy part of life but it’s not always comfortable. Sometimes, sex can be painful.
There are many reasons for this. It could be because of a physical problem, such as an infection or an injury, or an emotional or psychological problem, such as stress or anxiety.
If you’re experiencing painful sex, it’s important to talk to your doctor or a sexual health clinic, so they can help you figure out what’s causing the pain and find a solution.
Here are some things that can help relieve painful sex:
- Use lubricant. Lubricant can help make sex more comfortable by reducing friction
- Change positions. Sometimes, changing positions can help reduce pain
- Take your time. Don’t rush into sex. Focus on enjoying each other
- Talk to your partner. Let your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t
- See a doctor. If the pain is severe or doesn’t go away, see a doctor, they can help you figure out what’s causing the pain and find a solution
Remember, you’re not alone. Painful sex is a common problem and there are solutions available.
Premature Ejaculation
One of the more common issues is premature ejaculation which is when someone climaxes before they want to. However, they can also suffer from delayed ejaculation when they find it hard or even impossible to climax.
Sex is fun and exciting, so almost everyone may experience premature ejaculation at some time. Likewise, sex can also sometimes be a nervous or uncomfortable time, making it hard to climax. Both are perfectly normal.
However, if you continually suffer from premature ejaculation – or find it hard to ejaculate – it could be a more long-term issue which you may need help to overcome.
Sexual health clinics and services like Essex Sexual Health can help you identify the problem and find a solution so it’s no longer something you need to worry about.
Erectile Dysfunction
Another common issue is erectile dysfunction (ED), this is when a someone has trouble getting or maintaining an erection. It can happen to anyone at any age, but it’s more common in men over 40.
There are many reasons why a man might experience ED. It could be due to stress, anxiety or depression. It might also be caused by physical problems, such as high blood pressure, diabetes or heart disease.
If you’re experiencing ED, you should talk to your doctor. They can help you figure out what’s causing the problem and find a treatment for you.
It’s important to remember that ED is not your fault and is a very a common problem people face. Talk to your doctor and they can help you find relief.
Here are some things to keep in mind:
- ED is not unusual. Many men experience it at some point in their lives
- Your sexual partners may have experienced it before and will likely be understanding
- There are many causes of ED, and they can be treated. Talk to your doctor to find out what’s causing your ED and how to treat it
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are many people who can help you, including your doctor, a therapist or a support group.
You’re not alone.
There are people who care about you and want to help you through this decision.
FAQs
Clear answers to common questions
Contacting a sexual health service for the first time may be a little daunting, especially if you’re not keen on talking to someone. So, here are answers to some of the questions we get asked a lot.
What questions will be asked if I call the helpline?
You’ll be asked a few simple questions to understand your circumstances and the support you may need.
There is no rush, so take your time.
What support will I be offered?
We will support you in whatever way you need.
This may include talking through your situation, giving advice, helping you access things like protection or contraception, or organising a STI test.
What if I need a test?
We provide a quick and discreet STI self-testing kits for many of the most common infections.
If a different test is needed, we’ll help you with booking a confidential appointment at a local clinic.
Will I need a physical examination?
You may be invited to a confidential physical examination at one of our clinics, where a doctor will undertake any examination that’s needed.
You’ll be asked in advance if you are comfortable with the examination.
Who is told about my appointments or STI tests?
No one. Both your appointment and test result are completely confidential.
Your information is stored in a sexual health services medical record and is only shared with your GP or other professional if you agree.
How are tests taken?
If you do need to take a test, many can be taken from the comfort of your home by ordering one of our self-test kits – others may require a visit to a sexual health clinic.
You may be asked to provide either a urine or swab sample of the infected area or a blood sample may be needed in some cases. This will be explained before the test.
What if my test result is positive?
Firstly, please don’t worry, we deal with STIs all the time and almost all are now treatable.
You’ll be contacted by a professional to discuss your results and given advice on the treatment you may need.
In addition, we will offer any counselling and other forms of support you may need.
