It’s something most people experience, but not many talk about openly.
Solo sex (or masturbation) is a normal part of understanding your body, your feelings, and what you enjoy. But because of stigma or embarrassment, it can sometimes feel like something you’re not supposed to do.
The reality is very different.
Is it normal?
Yes. Solo sex is completely normal.
People of all ages, genders, and sexualities may masturbate at some point in their lives. Some people do it regularly, some occasionally, and some not at all.
There’s no “right” amount, what matters is what feels comfortable for you.
Why do people do it?
Solo sex isn’t just about pleasure. It can also help you:
- Understand what feels good for your body
- Feel more confident communicating with a partner
- Relieve stress and tension
- Sleep better
It’s a way of getting to know yourself, both physically and emotionally.
Is it safe?
Yes. Solo sex is one of the safest forms of sexual activity.
There’s:
- No risk of pregnancy
- No risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
If you’re using sex toys, it’s important to keep them clean and use them safely, especially if sharing with a partner.
What about guilt or embarrassment?
Some people grow up hearing that masturbation is “wrong” or something to feel ashamed about.
These feelings are more about social attitudes than health.
If solo sex is not interfering with your daily life or wellbeing, it’s a healthy and normal behaviour.
When might it be a concern?
For most people, it isn’t.
But it might be worth speaking to someone if it’s:
- Interfering with daily life, work, or relationships
- Feeling compulsive or difficult to control
- Linked to distress or negative feelings
Support is available, and you won’t be judged.
The bottom line
Solo sex is a normal, healthy part of understanding your body and your pleasure.
There’s no right or wrong amount, and no pressure either way. What matters is that it feels right for you.
Need support or advice?
Essex Sexual Health Service is free, confidential, and judgement-free. If you have questions about your sexual wellbeing, support is available.
